Military Children: Making it a Smoother Transition after a Deployment

Living in San Diego, chances are you have a loved one in the military. The separation is hard for everyone, but especially for children. Try out these tips to help your kids cope with separation- they might provide some comfort to you as well.

  • Talk about the change- When possible, both parents should talk to the children together. Tell them where the deployed parent is going, but keep answers short and simple.
  • Be a protective shield- Be mindful of what’s on television. Young children should not be exposed to the sights and sounds of war. Be available to talk to your older children about what they’re hearing at school or on the news.
  • Remain connected with the deployed parent- Encourage kids to make cards, write letters and keep photos of the parent in the child’s bedroom.
  • Stay positive – If you are confident about an upcoming change, your child will be positive too.
  • Seek help- The good news is that you don’t have to get through it alone. Thankfully, various organizations provide ways to alleviate the initial shock of knowing daddy or mommy will be gone for a while. Visit for a list of resources.

Courtesy of Operation Military Kids, Superintendent of Public Instruction/State of Washington; Parents Guide to the Military Child During Deployment and Reunion.